Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Dearest readers, today I’m afraid to open my banking app! I got paid at midnight, I had already budgeted and so I paid some bills and when the cock crowed at dawn I jumped in my little Kia and started my grocery shopping journey at the wholesale market. Today was quite interesting! I must’ve gone to about 7 different shops. That’s wild. I decided to take a break from unpacking groceries to share with you my thought for today.

Day 2: of celebrating 10 years living in the UK

My word for today is: Community

Migrating can cause you to lose a lot. You lose friends, family, routine, your culture, your confidence; life as you know it. One thing I lost was community. I moved to the second biggest city in the UK and at the time I did not have many family or friends around me.

When the volcano erupted on my island it caused a mass Exodus of our people. So years on I still feel that disconnect between myself and my family members. I do try to reach out and stay in contact with the ones I know but life is busy and we all live miles a part and so staying connected is hard.

Four years into living in the UK. The isolation was real. I’d see people at church, have small talk but from Monday to Saturday I did not have anyone to hang out with. I felt lonely and very much isolated. I would simply do the school runs (watching all the other moms converse while I stood quietly by myself) and go home. When lock down came because of the pandemic it didn’t bother me much because that was already essentially my life.

Keeping up with my friends back home was increasingly difficult with the time difference playing a major part. I remember saying to God one day after this lock down I was going to be more intentional, and so I was.

I became a volunteer. I got involved with ministry at church and I started pursuing some of my interests. Eventually my life went from grey to colorful. In this I realized we were truly built for connection. Fast forward to September 2025 when I was preparing to get married, when I wrote the list of the possible invitees I was so blessed and grateful to see that I was rich in love. Overtime I had stepped out of my corner and built an amazing community around me. Each person adding a brighter spark to my life. I was no longer alone I had a whole tribe and I was exploring life with each of them but in different ways.

If you’ve recently migrated or you’re thinking about it. Don’t get lost in the transition but immerse yourself in the culture and be open to embracing new people. Build a community who share your beliefs or who will challenge you to be the best version of you.

Well that’s all from me today. I’ve got groceries to finish unpack and a whole load of meat and fish to clean and season😒. Thank God hubby is stepping in to help me😌

See you tomorrow. As I continue to celebrate this milestone.

Besos😘