Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Hey there my lovelies!!!!! It’s been extremely too long but mama was tired, mama was busy, mama was studying, caring, mothering, juggling…mama was……. and whilst doing all these things I was becoming weary, miserable and a fraction of myself. BUT…mama is back! How you been?

So as my title suggests I’m getting ready to start a new chapter in my life. My stay at home mom/student days are almost behind me as I wait for final confirmation of my grades and step back into the world of work. I’m excited for this new chapter. It’s been a world wind of a ride but we got there in the end and these past 5 years have been fruitful with many lessons, failures and successes in tow.

So I mentioned I was weary. The average student gets up goes to Uni and spends most of their time studying then hanging with friends. On the contrary a mom who is doing higher education is, cooking, cleaning, washing, school runs and a plethora of other duties while still somehow finding the time to study, do assignments and attend lectures.

My strength, patience and abilities have been tested time and time again. I had to fight feelings of anxiety, not being good enough, doubt and many times I considered giving up and walking away from completing my degree. During these last 9 months and more so these last 3 months having dealt with the tidal waves cause by covid, children at home-homeschooling, studying and other responsibilities I began to feel really tired and weary. Somedays I just didn’t want to talk anyone. I began repeatedly telling my kids I’m only one person! After saying this for the millionth time I decided I had to make a change for this one person so I could be in a healthy mindset to deal with my two little persons.

When I turned 33 a month ago I decided I had to move differently going forward. One thing I promised myself was, to start doing things for me. And slowly but surely I have been doing just that. One of the recent changes that was extremely necessary was evicting my son from my room. Yes yall I had to de-child my room!(is that even a word 🤣) I had to put out his toy boxes, clothes, books, remove stickers from my wardrobe, tv etc. He even queried why would I do this to him? You see I would spend half the night pulling a foot out my back, rescuing him from diving off the bed, dodging morning breath and all other manner of evil. By morning I’m tired and tiredness breeds misery. On a bright note he’s now settled in his room (a goal that I hoped to achieve over the summer but was met in less than a week)and when I check in on him during the night, mate in there sleeping like an angel😒😒.

Having turned in my final assignment I sat in my room, praying and pondering my next steps. I spend a lot of time in my room and for the 4 years my kids and I have lived in this house I’ve redecorated their rooms and other areas of the house numerous times but never my room. It got me thinking; I needed to do something to get my creative juices flowing again and then it hit me. I want a space that I can unwind at the end of the day especially when I resume work and so I decided to give my room a lil “face-lift.”

So everyday for almost two weeks I’ve been at work in my room. Painting, assessing, rearranging, updating (even my bin got spray painted LOL)and ORDERING; finishing my lil money on amazon! The delivery guys were at my door steady; I even know my Hermes deliverer by name now🤣🤦‍♀️shout out to Troy😂🙌. My spirit has been lifted and I’m happier than I’ve been in a while as well as super proud of what I’ve achieved. I’ve always fancied home improvements and even said it’s something I want to do in the future…well Charity begins at home, and so here I am.

Sometimes as adults especially moms, we sacrifice a lot, give up so much and if we’re not careful we lose the essence of who we are. My challenge to you is do something for you! If you’re not happy with your current situation make a change.

So as I close one chapter and look forward to a new…I wish you my dear readers all the best with your future endeavours.

P.S head over to my Instagram page @inspiredsinglemum to see the video of my bedroom transformation and give me your thoughts; hit or miss. Drop a comment let me know. #issanewlook

Until next time…Besos😘