Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Hey there my lovely readers…Welcome back to another blog🤗 It’s always a pleasure corresponding with you guys through this forum.

How have you been lately? Are you snappy? Tired? Tired of being tired? Are you gaining or losing weight with or without trying? Have you washed dishes for the 600th time today? Scrubbed the bathroom before you took your “quick shower”? Have you been busy cleaning only to find the house…still dutty! Perhaps you’re sitting staring at the ancient nail polish on your toes, willing in your heart that definitely tomorrow you’re gonna sort them out? If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions you my friend are a mother!!!! 🤣😂

Which brings me to the topic of today…Self love? Now where did such a phenomenon originate from and is this just another fad that some people subscribe to but really isn’t achievable, possible or sustainable; or not something that mothers do!

In my humble opinion as a parent self love is essential! It may look different for each individual but essentially it is something that you do for yourself that will ultimately make you feel better. How long it lasts or what the activity is, is purely up to you. Now…the question is do I have time for self love?

Recently I found myself in a mundane state…I didn’t want to exercise, wasn’t in the mood to cook, I was over washing dishes and cleaning, had no drive to do my weekly readings for my module, no zeal to even do a blog post!!!!!miserable, tired…trust me if a fly passed too close to me it would’ve been its last flight! I realised this was not me and I needed to do something about it. So what did your girl do…

Listen my God is an on time God…You may not know when you want Him but he’ll be there right on time and send you exactly what you need. So as I began my self reflection, I started taking more notice of this craze self love. Everybody seemed to be talking about it or doing it. So what did I do? First of all I started getting my son back into a bedtime routine(my daughter’s not an issue she has made up her own night time routine) and once he was sleeping I proceeded to some me time! Some nights I would read with some jazz playing in the background…then I invested in some products for my face and hair so now mama has been loving on her skin and natural hair, eventually my mojo to exercise and eat right came back slowly but surely; but I was still tired and was over the usual chores and day to day routine. Then one day in one of my group chats I saw an invite to a positive parenting workshop, I signed up for it and boy o boy it was definitely what the doctor prescribed.

My children went away for the Easter holidays and I packed a suitcase and headed off for a little getaway. Sleep never felt so gooooood🥳 During my getaway I had more than enough time to explore different avenues of self love. I didn’t need to have a ninja shower(where mother’s usually shower in under 5 minutes so that they can get back to doing their duties quickly) as a matter of fact one day I had a bubble bath and I felt like I was floating for the rest of the day. What bliss! I didn’t need to scuff down my food to play with a lil human, dress them or chauffeur them to school. I could roll out of bed when I liked, prepare and eat whatever I wanted and not share!!!(yes me greedy sometimes😫) I can’t remember when I’ve ever been so free. My mood had changed, I felt lighter, I was exercising again, preparing healthy meals, drinking my water, caring for my edges and dry scalp😂 sleeping soundly without being attacked in my sleep by a Kung Fu Panda, and addressing issues that were bothering me that I didn’t have time to do. After the first week I felt refreshed and renewed by the time week two rolled around I started missing my children and everything that encompassed, yes even washing the dishes and the kung Fu Panda sleepless nights.

When my children returned home it was clear that they missed me also, I received many kisses and hugs for the first few days. This resonated with me and it showed me that sometimes we need a little time a part to relax and be rejuvenated, to be ministered to so that we are in the right frame of mind to do what mothers do.

So what about you? Are you taking time for self love or moving through parenthood or motherhood miserable and tired, thinking this is just what it’s like to be a mother. I beseech you come on over to the self love side and do something for yourself on a regular or daily basis that I promise you will help you to be a better mother. Self love…a fad or necessity…Inspiredsinglemum votes for(drum roll please) It’s a necessity. Until next time my lovelies……be good to yourselves Besos🥰😘