Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Hey there my lovelies…welcome, welcome,welcome!!!🤗😘

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This week was a tough week for me. I mentioned in my previous posts that I am a student, well this week that aspect of my life literally took over as I had two assignments to complete that were due a day apart.

Friend: Me tink u say u a go do better? Dis a di betta?

Me: No mom😣😥

For those of you who read that and said to yourself wait whattt..what does that mean..calm down I’m Montserratian (a picturesque island in the Caribbean) so of course my dialect is gonna spew forth in my posts. ( basically she said: I thought you were going to do better? Is this better?) I called her mom because her tone implied “lil girl really!”

My friend calls me regularly to check on me so she knows that I vowed to be a better student. I would have a schedule that I follow to a T, I’d be up to date on my readings and my assignments turned in way ahead of the due date. However my reality is being a prisoner in my own home(in more ways than one); there’s homeschooling, daily chores, online church and I plethora of other distractions. Thus I fall behind on my reading and my assignments are turned in on the day they are due.

For most students they are able to lock away in a quiet room to get their course work done or have the privilege of going to a library. Me: my workspace is smack dab in a war zone(please send help😫). This week in particular I had to share my space with Mr Busy Bee and my daughter who’s doing live or prerecorded lessons because schools are closed due to Covid-19.( I had to have her in my eyesight cause my girl was locked in her room doing hair and nails and putting on eyelashes when she was suppose to be doing school work🤨) Concentration was great when I started. Everyone was quiet doing their own thing but things took a turn. Listen I think my eyes started twitching at some point. A police officer arrested me twice (Amir- he said he was keeping me safe), a spooky ghost past through the room (again Amir!!!!!!),there was music, and different voices from teachers and I had to listen to amusing jokes about teachers who made mistakes in the work they uploaded(this was seriously funny though..as one teacher practiced how to say a particular statement and in error uploaded himself making the statement in three variations of his voice😂🤣🤣🤣🤣poor jab..as my lucian friends would say. I also had to contend with conference calls between giggling teenage girls. At this point my oat latte was of no use to me.

By nightfall I was seriously tired, frustrated and had no will to go on. Children in bed, house a mess and assignment one still incomplete I was on the brink of tears so I phoned a friend. I just needed reassurance that ‘you got this”. I sat at my laptop after my phone call and just stared at the screen. I got up walked over to the window, looked outside and just exhaled. Then I returned to my seat opened my bible app(YouVersion) and read a devotional from the plan “Restoring my view of motherhood.” That decision to pause and refill my weary soul gave me the inspiration to carry on a little further. Motherhood is a ministry, an occupation where we pour out a lot of ourselves daily no matter how we’re feeling or what we’re going through. There are times when we need to be refreshed.

The next day was another day to be better. Another day to try to balance what was on my plate and stay calm in the midst of it all. I know as moms (or dads) we have some tough days and frustrations build, we may lash out at our family members or others we come in contact with but what I’ve learnt this week we have to strike a balance. If your peace is being threatened, if you’re feeling overwhelmed just stop and EXHALE!

I don’t know what your situation is right now but you can find balance, you can find peace in the midst of your storm. Just stop:

1. take a minute to regroup or decide to rest
2. phone a friend to pray with you, encourage you or just have a laugh with
3. know when to walk away
4. do an activity by yourself (boxing or going for a run is my way to relieve stress)

These things can help you to evaluate your situation and chart your way forward.

How about you? How was your week? Were you able to balance everything that was thrown against you successfully or do you see opportunities for growth or areas that you can change? Don’t drop the ball my friend! Don’t wait for everything to come crashing down. Begin to deal with each element in your life. You may just need to drop or rearrange some things. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or talk to someone, because contrary to popular belief we all need each other.

Anyways my lovelies I’ve got to run but here’s to a pleasant day and the strength to balance your plate of life. Besos😘