Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Hello beautiful people welcome back to my space (Besos😘)

So… recently someone said to me “you appear so calm with your children” I wanted to respond Thank you( dancing emoji…smiling emoji..angel emoji) but the Lord won’t let me tell that lie! So i’m gonna speak the truth and shame di devil (as my oldest sister always says 😂✋).

Yall I’m a work in progress but one thing that I can say after 13 years of being a parent I am living and learning each day…some days I’m doing virtual high fives like yes I rocked it today..other days I wave the white flag and say tomorrow is another day to be better.

So grab your favourite beverage my peeps it’s story time.

Today’s story from the book of Kamille’s chronicles comes from Amir, chapter ‘he dun work on ma last nerve🙄😒 !”

So the other day I was sitting in the living room (reception room as the Brits would say) I think I was doing something on my laptop..I’m not sure..anyways I digress. Ami (as I sometimes call him because his 4 letter name Amir is sometimes too long to call apparently 🤣😆😂) was playing with his toys and watching one of his shows on the tv. Now I had already told him to settle down like a million times already and STOP JUMPING IN MY CHAIRS! (sofa rather) This 4 year old has no chill yall. I don’t know what was going on in his little mind but apparently the ninja in him, jumped unto the single sofa which I was sitting in, flipped over to the three seater sofa across from me and in his descent grabbed and pulled down my curtains.🤦‍♀️

In my mind I saw a scenario where I called him and said come sweetheart now remember what mommy said about jumping on the chairs and running about you could’ve been hurt please don’t do that again. But what happened was…

Listen!!!!!! I lost ma mind..the caribbean parent rose up in me..and I ranted and cussed(no expletives I don’t do that) I could feel the veins in my throat pulsating and one on my temple doing the Macarena (one of the coolest dances of my childhood..look it up)I cussed so much I began to cough violently..I think that was God’s way of saying ok..shut up now..you done made your point! And what was my sweet, loving boy doing at this point???sitting quietly on the floor looking up at me..head slightly tilted.. I think I even saw a halo on his head like..I’ve done no wrong mom…you need help..why you gotta scream like that!???

Later that evening, we were all sitting in the living room and watching television and out of the blue he said Sistah (that’s what he calls Dinyka) today I was a little naughty…he continued to explain what happened…then he said and mommy went like this “roarrrrrrrr”. Dinyka and I laughed but in that moment I knew I owed this little man an apology and that’s exactly what I did.

That night when I sat reflecting it dawned on me when I was ranting and raving my son saw me as a dragon spewing fire. He probably didn’t even hear half of what I said to him in that moment. I did not like this image of myself, this is definitely not the type of parent that I want my children to see me as. I remembered a lady from my church (I like to think of her as one of my mentors) who said to me God gave you those children Kamille…have you ever stopped to ask Him how to discipline or deal with them on a daily basis? In that moment I stopped to pray and ask God to help me each day – to download the updated software in my spirit that I needed to deal with my son (because trust me everyday they come up with something new that will leave you bewildered).

I’ve learnt that children have feelings just like us and that sometimes we need to go back and say sorry to them and then talk about the situation like a civilised human being: explain what they did, what they should’ve done and even say how you as a parent will deal with it in the future.

So not my finest moment but I’ve learnt a valuable lesson from it. To my dear sister who asked how do I stay so calm…the answer is..I don’t always remain calm but I’m learning that each day is another day to do better, to be better. And who knows maybe one day this mama bear wouldn’t have to roarrrrrr at all! My advice to you if you’re a parent is get to know your child or children better..study their habits and decipher what form of discipline is best at whatever stage they are; whether it’s a timeout, taking away a privilege or device or simply a heart to heart talk. You may not always get it right but nothing beats a try but a failure. Be intentional in your parenting and be consistent.

Love you guys ..gotta run…got some assignments to complete (Besos 😘)