Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Wow that was a year!

Thank you to every reader especially those who message me privately to carry on conversations triggered by my blog posts. You have helped me to grow and find the courage to continue on this blogging journey. 

Can I be petty and speak to that lady who messaged me last year under a fake profile and stated ‘you call yourself an inspired mom!’ You meant for me to internalise your message as a negative connotation, but rather it was what I needed to push me further out of my comfort zone. So Thank you my dear, I appreciate you.

Now today’s musing…..

Have you ever sat to think about all that has transpired in your life in a year and just marvel that you are still alive and well, or just become so overwhelmed with gratitude that truly, God has brought you a mighty long way? I have. My encouragement to you my dear readers, is to stop and reflect on your year and chart your way forward for 2024.

There’s a saying that goes if it’s not broke don’t fix it…or why change a good thing. But what if it’s broke and you didn’t realise? What if it’s not a good thing but you’ve become so indulged in toxicity that you haven’t realised this good thing is now a bad thing. My challenge for you today is to shine a torch on every area of life to see if it’s really a good thing or if it’s indeed broken but you’ve just learnt to live in chaos, compromise, rejection, overdrive or unfulfillment and told yourself, hmm I’m ok; this my life.

This year was a year of testing and transition for me. Amidst all the emotions I felt, giving up wasn’t an option. In my estimation my new year didn’t start until March. January saw me planning, pivoting, dealing with grief, arranging my mom’s funeral all while holding on to the little sanity and peace I had left. I felt pulled in different directions. Sometimes from the very people around me. February saw me walking back into my career path of teaching and navigating all the logistics of that not so new domain. So when March rolled around it was then that it occurred to me I had been in overdrive, merely surviving, barely living, going through the regular routines and motions of life. Seeing Iife through grey clouds and trying to smile through it all. I woke up and decided I could either continue life as I had been doing it or get up and begin to live an extraordinary life.

My new year started in March, however my awakening began in June. You may wonder what I mean by my awakening? I turned 35 in June and I realised if all you get in this life is 2 score and 10 (70 years)… if i’m lucky, then I have already lived half of my lifespan. I saw this year how people who were close to me not even make it to 70 years on the land of the living. Case in point my mom who died at the age of 63. I witnessed a young lady full of life, succumb to cancer and was gone in the blink of an eye. I saw, one of my biggest cheerleaders and motivator’s exit this life in his 80’s. I don’t know if I’d be lucky to see 63 or 83 so I decided I was going to live life to the fullest.

No more procrastination. No more living life in limbo. No more feeling sorry for myself or living half of the woman I was called to be. No more shrinking myself or trying to fit in someone else’s mold for me. No more waiting for someone to fulfill their promises to me,

or waiting for things to happen to or for me. It was time to be bold, to enjoy life; to feel the fear and do it anyway. The interesting thing is life began to happen for me in a different way when I learnt to say no. No to one-sided friendships, no to relationships that under the microscope really did not benefit me. No to people stealing my time and my peace. No, to doing life the same way. I’m now happier and more fulfilled than I’ve ever been. Even in what should’ve or could’ve been the worst year of my life, I found so much joy and contentment.

2024 can be the best year of your life, or it can be another unfulfilled year, with you saying yes to everybody and everything that comes your way that really will not benefit you, but only waste your time. It could be another year living in the mundane, or walking through a year with no purpose. I don’t know about you but my time is expensive. Time is fleeting. Lost time can never be regained. So, how will you maximise your time in 2024?

I know that when I started blogging over two years ago. My stories were filled with jokes and punchlines. More than just jokes, I wanted this to be a blog to inspire and motivate you my fellow single mothers or anyone reading this despite of the category that you may place yourself in, to see life from a different perspective.

Your 2023 reflections may reveal your life to be indeed broken, lackluster, mediocre; depressing or on the contrary it may be very good (it still can be better)! Whatever state you may find yourself in, I always say, “the sky is just the beginning”. Keep soaring high and exploring wonders unknown. Challenge yourself every year with God’s help to be a better version of yourself.

So it’s too late to make any changes for 2023…but what about 2024? The bible says, “write the vision and make it plain”. Write where you see yourself and what goals you want to achieve in the New Year, even if it’s only one.

One of my goals for 2024 is to write a book. Now that I’ve said it here, I better get cracking!!! Wish me luck!

Well my dearest readers, thanks for sharing the highs and lows of 2023 with me. If you want to connect with me further, click the link below to take you to my various platforms. It’s always a pleasure popping on here to share my heart with you. I wish you a safe and blessed 2024. http://linktr.ee/kamille_winspeare

Until next time….Besos