Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

Hola mis amigos! My Spanish teacher should be so proud of me right now, his efforts were not in vain.😊 Though I wish I can write this whole post in ‘Español’, I absolutely cannot (I spent most of my days in Spanish class playing X and O with my bestie. Lo Siento Senor Allen) I’ll continue rambling in my native tongue, the good ole English language.

Welcome to a long overdue blog post, if you’re wondering, girl where have you been? You can catch me on my Instagram page @inspiredsinglemum or listen to me and my podcast bestie talk about hot topics in Christendom. Click the links below to find me😁 or not😒

http://linktr.ee/kamille_winspeare

https://www.youtube.com/@FaithGritandGracePod

Crazy thing; I began writing this post a year and a bit ago and never finished. This has become a reoccurring theme in my life and so I’m entering a season where I’m finishing the things I have started and aborted for whatever reason. Some of it was mainly because of procrastination or fear😣, but I’m learning to feel the fear and do it anyway. BTW am I the only one who does this; starts a project and do not complete it? If you do this to, drop me a heart, or comment how you are overcoming this. If you are struggling I’m here cheering for you, come on you can do it…Finish it, Get back up, Get back in the ring!

Anyhow on to today’s topic

So picture it. A regular shemegular (idk if this is a real word lol) day. It’s that time of the morning when you run around in circles getting ready for work and getting your children fed, dressed, packing lunch bags and making breakfast, whilst asking the necessary questions and shouting, I mean communicating clearly what they are meant to be doing so we can all get out the house on time and be where we need to be with pleasantries and the perfect will to get on with our day.

I can remember it was already a hectic week and so to ensure I didn’t forget anything I made a note of the different things I had to do. It was the day before red nose day (Celebrated in May each year, a day where money is raised by #comicrelief to help children living in poverty) and trying to be ahead of the game, actually scratch that, I was a day early and a pound short; because I had paid for my son’s red nose and told his teacher he had it in his bag.

Red nose is tomorrow mom!

“Ooooo!” I replied, trying to hide my shame. I think they told me to hold on to it until the next day, but the irony is the next day, actual red nose day, I forgot to walk with his red nose, and when do I remember… when he’s going into his classroom and everybody else has their red nose on. Trying to be a good mother I decided I’ll rush back home get the nose and bring it back.

I got back home, only to realise that, yep you guessed it, I had locked the house keys inside the house.🤦‍♀️I ran to the back to see if I could get in some other way. I could see my bedroom window open on the 2nd floor. I decided I would climb up the ladder, shimmy across the roof, scale the wall and go through the window, I’d done it before I can do it again right? You must be wondering all of that just for a red nose!😣 Talking about going the extra mile as a parent!

So I took the ladder out of the shed, set it up and begun my ascent to the roof. Now I’m normally a get on with it kind of person, a roll with the punches kind of gyal a tough cookie, but chileeeee as I scaled that ladder and I looked down suddenly I felt like I was 1000 feet in the air. Immediately fear crept in. Now I’m talking to myself, “just take your time walk across the roof, scale the wall, climb through the window and get the red nose for your son.” My other thoughts were; “suppose you fall, nobody absolutely nobody knows where you are at this moment. You will be stuck laying on the ground for hours. Who will look after your children if you get hurt? Girl you don’t even have life insurance get down. What if a neighbour sees you and call the police, thinking you are a burglar?”

And so in that moment I realised, it was not that deep. I wasn’t going to potentially injure myself just so that my son could sit all day looking like a clown with a red nose on his nose; which would potentially limit his breathing and he most likely was not going to wear it for half of the day. I had already paid the £1 and I think that’s all that truly mattered. I climbed down the ladder, walked back to my car and drove to work.

Are you that parent who tends to go the extra mile. Or maybe you’re laid back and basically its “que sera sera” for you? Or maybe you’re somewhere in the middle of these two personality traits? I’m beginning to learn to stand between the two and stop over complicating life and motherhood. There are many times when we find ourselves on the roof trying to go over and above the call of duty when it’s really not that serious. I’m sure if I ask my son “remember the day mommy forgot your red nose?”; he’s not even going to remember, but there I was potentially risking my life for something so simple.

As I was about to close off this post I realised, tis another season for us to be on the roof about many things. As I write this blog post we’ve got 26 more sleeps until it’s Christmas. Many people are stressing out over being able to afford the items on their very long grocery and gift lists. If you’re from the Caribbean, you’re probably thinking about the new “bed spread” and curtains you have to buy for every room. My question to you is….Is it necessary? Also, will it matter two days after Christmas, a month or a year later that you had new dinnerware, plush bathroom rugs or ten curtains at every window? Are you doing it because of tradition or something you genuinely feel that you need to do for your family?

I can’t tell you what to do but as for me and my house we will be living simple this Christmas. For years my children have been asking for a relaxed Christmas and I agreed. However the past 4 Christmases we spent with family or friends because of one reason or the other. But this year we are finally going to spend it how we’ve always wanted to. Additionally, we are doing Christmas on a budget and spending it just the three of us. No excessive cooking, overspending or entertaining a truck load of people. So if you were thinking of popping up at our home…nobada wid it! 😒

Sometimes in life we tend to over complicate and over exert ourselves. Do the best you can and leave the rest. Stop stressing yourself over things! Hopefully your family and friends will understand and appreciate you for what you’ve done. That’s my advice today.

My dearest readers, if you don’t hear from me in this regard again for the rest of the year. I wish you a merry Christmas and a joyous New Year! Live simply and….stay off the roof!

Until next time Besos 😘