Chronicles of an Inspired Single Mom

“What about you Kam? Where do you see yourself 10-15 years from now?”

“Well I’ll be finished with my degree by 25, because I definitely don’t want to be in school after that age! By 30 I’ll be married with my 2.5 children, have my dream house and established in my career.”

That was my response to a question from one of my bestfriends some 15 years ago as we sat chilling under a lush, green, gigantic Neem tree whilst on a break from class. Little did I know that a few years later I would give birth to my daughter, just out of college (age 19) and my son would follow some nine years later. I would’ve laughed in your face if you told me this would’ve been my reality because I was going to be married first! I had to be especially with the values and morals instilled in me, in addition to me growing up in a Christian home and community. But here I am living life as a Single mom, two kids, two different fathers, whew chileeeee!!! butttt it happened and it doesn’t make me any less of a person or mother. Oh and btw(by the way) I’m 32 and in my last year of University (now I’m laughing at myself)

Having my daughter straight out of college or sixth form rather meant I had to give up a lot of things and grow up instantly. I felt she was my child and therefore my responsibility so everything I did I did with her best intentions at heart. This mama hustled hard and worked different jobs alongside my main job as a teacher(at that time) to provide for my child. When I decided to go to teacher’s college in St. Lucia (daughter only one year) I took her with me. Again years later with the need for change and self development I migrated to England and began my studies a year later on the exact day that my son turned one.

My days are challenging but eventful as you can imagine with a now 13 and 4 year old. Some days I run around like superwoman, cooking, cleaning, school runs after school activities and somehow finding time to study or what is laughable “me time.” Other days cue a box set hand me some Doritos and leave mama alone I just wanna be a bum and chill! It was in my downtime I began journaling about funny, frustrating or past experiences that I’d been through that helped me grow and develop as a parent. This brought some sense of relief for me and I came to the conclusion I can’t be the only mother who struggles sometimes managing daily routines or have funny stories of their children that they don’t mind sharing that can help another mother. After much thought, procrastination and near anxiety attacks here I am on this platform to inspire and be inspired by you my readers.

So my life hasn’t gone as planned clearly and it has taken me until just a few months ago to realise that even though I am a single mom my children are thriving in a loving, nurturing, stable environment. I’ve come to the realization that the scripture Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good…” applied to my situation and that my journey though rocky is turning into one heck of a story.

So with the question from 15 years ago in mind and the title of this blog post; I say…my life may not have gone as planned and yes I am a single mom but this story is turning out to be far better than I could have imagined, flaws and all! ✨😎👌